I’m writing this five hours after the decision not to indict Officer Darren Wilson for the shooting of Michael Brown. Was I shocked? No. I think I knew, deep down, this is what would happen all along. Was I saddened? Incredibly. I’ve been crying on and off all night and have been following #nojustice to see what the rhetoric is in our country right now. Which is also deeply disturbing.
As I’ve said before, these things are personal to me now. Racial injustice has always ignited outrage in me, but now it ignites deep fear. My son is but two, and it is rare for us to go somewhere without someone commenting on his height, his ripped muscles, his strength. To top it off, he has Sensory Processing Disorder and doesn’t recognize his own strength and craves sensory input — not because he is a bully — but because he had a traumatic first year of life. So he will sometimes spontaneously bite, push or claw at a child with tremendous force.
When people remark at how he is almost the same height as his 5-year-old sister or marvel at the pronounced muscles in his arms, I smile proudly. But inwardly, there is always a fear and a prayer, “Lord keep him safe.” Because he is black and tall and strong, research shows that he will be viewed as a threat. That even though he is possibly the most loving, cuddly and joyful kiddo on the planet — the behaviors that come with his SPD may be perceived as violent and aggressive and won’t always be viewed with understanding and compassion.Read More»
I have the pleasure of reviewing for you today an absolutely beautiful and sweet book!
Summary: Mei-Mei’s Lucky Birthday Noodles by Shan-Shan Chen tells the story of Mei-Mei, a Chinese American adoptee whose parents want her to value her Chinese roots. Each year on her birthday, her family has a tradition of preparing “lucky birthday noodles”, a traditional Chinese dish. The story details the preparation of the food and the celebration to follow, in which Mei-Mei is given a red envelope — a symbol of good luck given for special occasions in Chinese culture. At the end of the story, you will even find a simple recipe for the birthday noodles that Mei-Mei and her parents prepare in the book!Read More»
Anyone who has been around my 2-year-old for more than a few minutes knows that he is a whirlwind of energy. He is a busy toddler and a boy, which is always a combination for crazy…and when you combine that with sensory seeking behaviors and the need to be in constant motion — characteristics common to a child with Sensory Processing Disorder — you can only imagine the spectacle that ensues whenever trying to read with him. About a month ago, I was sitting on the couch trying to get through Where the Wild Things Are at bedtime (ironic much?) as he literally ran circles around the couch ROARING (“their terrible roars…”) and I decided I needed a new plan. We’ve implemented some new ideas at home (with the help of an amazing OT!), and while we’re not exactly reading chapter books together for hours upon end (he is STILL a toddler, after all), we’re able to enjoy 10-15 minutes at a time of short board books and picture books together. Here are some tips for reading to an active toddler. (This post contains affiliate links.)Read More»
One of my favorite bloggers on the planet is Kristen Howerton. I love her perspective as an adoptive mama and professor of psychology and think she posts some of the most insightful, hilarious stuff on the Internet. If you follow my Facebook page, you know that I often share her blog posts on my wall, because I think she has a lot of valuable and important stuff to say.
A way long while back, I submitted a piece to her “What I Want You to Know” series. The idea is that by reading people’s personal stories, we will have greater compassion for one another. I have LOVED these posts because they often challenge my way of thinking and how I view a certain people or group of people. They help me recognize where I have maybe harbored a certain judgement or idea in my heart that is false and unloving.Read More»
It’s no secret that promoting diversity and multiculturalism in my home is something that I’m passionate about. We are a multiracial family, which makes it a cause near and dear to my heart for obvious reasons — but we live in a rather homogeneous town and it can be challenging when, often times, the only brown person I see in a day is my son.
It’s one of the reasons that I work hard to bring diverse experiences into my home. I try to surround my children with board games, art, literature and toys that depict characters from all different backgrounds and experiences. For birthdays and holidays, multicultural gifts are something that are greatly appreciated in our household. As part of the KBN Holiday Gift Guide, I’m rounding up a list of our favorite multicultural gifts to share with you today. Be sure to check out the amazing gift guides put together by over 75 talented KBN blogger mamas and follow the Pinterest board at the bottom of this post! (This post contains affiliate links.)Read More»
I love books. If I didn’t have actual things I had to do during the day, I would prefer to just sit around and read.
I also happen to think books make really great gifts, because there is something for everyone — whether it’s your mom, mother-in-law, child’s teacher or the girl you don’t know that well in your book club. So as you start to think about your holiday shopping, here’s some book gift ideas I’m recommending, based on ones that I have read and enjoyed from this past year! (This post contains affiliate links.)Read More»
Fall is here, and I with a few credits on my account and a change to cooler weather, I decided to schedule an October Stitch Fix.
It always feels like Christmas to open the box and see the five items my stylist has selected for me. This is my third fix, and I always try to leave specific and helpful feedback after reach fix so that my stylist can find things that I love! (more…)
I’m two months into having a child in school, and I am slowly learning and adjusting to all the shenanigans. One of the things that has been the most difficult transition for me is not knowing what my 5-year-old is up to for half of her day. I went from being with her at every moment — knowing who she is with, what she is doing and what she is eating — to knowing only what she tells me. It is HARD. (Yes, I know it’s also part of her growing independence, but it’s still hard, okay?)
The first couple of weeks of school, I hounded my daughter with the “How was school today?” question immediately upon picking her up.
My little chatterbox took me off guard each day when she would answer, “Fine.”
I would try to get more out of her with,”What did you do at school today?”
“I don’t remember.”
It was killing me not to hear about every.single.minute. And she grew quickly annoyed with my coaxing.Read More»